The answer of every question.
Why would people waste their time waiting? Because they care enough to give a portion of their life that they could never get back. But the amount of giving a damn for a particular idea is limited when the other party takes it for granted, thus, people stop waiting. They move on.
Why would people tolerate? Because they try to understand. But to cross the horizon of understanding is as thin as a 1mm line. When the patience blows up, and they refuse to understand, they can either choose not to give the slightest damn about it and move on, or they can err… I can’t get another option for this. Okay maybe just to not care about it anymore and to just forget about it.
Well, to keep why-waiting-is-tiring short, well, because they are just tired for hoping and expecting in the process. Hope and expectation often lead to disappointment. In several special cases, they can bring joy. Several. Special. Cases. Owing to the fact that oftentimes, they hope and expect more than they could actually get. Given idea by Paulo Coelho in his book, The Alchemist. The more you spend time with a person, (s)he will become a part of your life, and you will start expecting him/her to change, and if (s)he doesn’t you will start to get angry and that anger is a form of the disappointment. Personally, I also have read Leo Babauta’s writing about why we should just toss away our expectation to the sea. He is right. Life without expectation does give space to the disappointment. It keeps us away from being resentful and dissatisfied. It’s true when he said something about how expectation gives us an illusion about how things were supposed to be and mostly, in the end, we would be disappointed. But, question is, can we?
Living without expectation, in my opinion, is the same meaning as no judging. In the moment you saw the thing, you judged, and you started to expect. That’s the mechanism of a human being, isn’t it?
Nonetheless, wake up! Impossible people can live without judging. The first thought that pops out would be your judgment of the particular idea or thing or even person. Rather than making your life more difficult than it already is (by finding a way to toss the expectations to the sea), why not just live life as simple as it is? Breathe-see-expect-face the reality-move on.
When people start to get weary, they stop hoping and expecting, they move on. It’s as easy as it is.
Goodnight, hearts.
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